So here we are, nearly 6 weeks into lockdown, and it doesn’t look like much is going to change any time soon. We are in such a horrendous time where people we love are hurting and the amount of people we are losing is staggering. I would just like to take a moment to thank all the people who are still working over Covid-19. You are amazing. Another hard – although not as hard – thing about this pandemic is lockdown itself. One thing that is certain is that lots of people are all dealing with lockdown in different ways. For me personally, I’ve been okay. It’s been hard at times, but I have found a couple of strategies that have helped me through this weird, crazy time in our history. So I thought I’d share some of those things that have helped me through. A lot of it seems so obvious, and I know that we can tend to switch off when things seem obvious. But I have often found that it isn’t knowing what to do that is the problem, but it is putting that into practice. The first three nuggets have come from the bible, as the bible is an amazing source of advice and life.
1) What are you thankful for?
Myself and Jonny walked up a mini mountain called Rest Dodd a year or so ago. As we drove up, we saw a massive cloud covering the top of it, but we’d driven all that way and it seemed fine. It probably wasn’t the wisest decision we ever made. The weather was absolutely awful. The rain was relentless and soaked all the way through our waterproof clothes, and the wind was so strong I could barely stay upright. We had to keep our hoods secured to our heads or our hats whipped right off.
Safe to say, we didn’t make it all the way to the top, but unfortunately, we had given it a good go. We were hungry, wet and freezing cold, and the journey down seemed never ending. Getting to the car had never seemed like such a wonderful idea and we were over the moon when we got there. We dried off and changed into our spare clothes, turned the heating on in the car and ate the last few snacks we had left. I remember saying to Jonny that I had never appreciated shelter, warmth and food as much as I did in that moment. Such luxuries are things I took for granted most of the time. The same can be said for most things we have in our life. We can become so used to them we forget about them. It can be easy to look at what we don’t have sometimes instead of what we do, and lockdown definitely has a way of highlighting that. But the thing is, when we get into this mind set, it is never going to help. It is never going to make us feel good. Perhaps resentful, but never happy. In truth, the times where I have felt lowest was when I thought about what I was missing out on. That I couldn’t see people, that I missed going out, that I couldn’t go on holiday.
But when I have taken this solid advice and talked to my husband Jonny about what I’m thankful for – what we do have – and focused on that, taken a different perspective, it has shifted my whole mood. We have much to be grateful for. Even just the fact we are warm or have somewhere to sleep, or can see or hear or taste, or that we wake up healthy. It is not something to take for granted. There is so much to be thankful about the world we live in, especially when we find out things like how our sun is just the right distance from the sun otherwise life couldn’t exist or that if we were to read the 3 billion character DNA in just one little cell in our bodies, it would be 6 feet long and would take 96 years just to read the description of us. It is amazing! Through lockdown we have had sunshine to brighten up our day and it has happened over Spring which has made the world around us so beautiful.
Instead of thinking that lockdown is time away from people, it can actually be seen as precious time with family. It can be seen as more time to video call friends or more time to try things we didn’t have time to try before. It’s a change of perspective. What do we have? I believe our time on earth isn’t meant to just be about survival, but of abundance and blessing. However, unless we properly recognise what we’ve been given, we won’t be able to experience that life. Thankfulness is not a one- time thing, it is a lifestyle, and that takes practice. We have to be purposeful about it.
2) Get connected.
It can be really hard to do this one. I know a lot of people that have felt anxiety about this and I know for myself there have been a lot of times when I just didn’t want to. But I know when joy and energy are zapped from us, it is often the things that help us that are the last things we want to do. Instead, we do nothing and then feel guilty for doing nothing. I had a day like this, and forced myself to attend a ‘cuppa and catch up’ session my uni was holding. I had no intention of turning my mic or camera on. I was only there to hear any updates. However I found myself typing messages to people and joining in, and as soon as the session was over, I suddenly had a burst of energy. Usually, phoning someone feels like an effort, but when I get off the phone with them, I feel so much better in myself and closer to them. The bible says that we are to love one another and build each other up, encourage each other. Why? Because when we love people and help people, it brings us joy! For this one I would even go as far as to say, no matter what we’re feeling, push through. We can’t let our feelings allow us to alienate ourselves. We were not created to be alone. We are meant to be part of a community, a family. We need each other the most in this time, not our crazy thoughts.
3) What is truth?
Which leads me to my next point. Lockdown has given us all a lot of thinking time, and if you’re anything like me, your mind has the habit of wandering and makes a lot of assumptions. Our feelings can get in the way and lead us to believe things. But feelings are not truth. Feelings are up and down and all over the place. They are not a reliable source of information. And yet we let our feelings determine what we believe so much, which means that we can believe a lot of lies, particularly about ourselves and other people. One example of this could be that if no one’s contacting us for a little while, no one cares. We are all alone. The truth is however, that we are all sat at home thinking this, and people have got so much on their plate that either they’re just trying to get through the day or have anxiety about calling anyone. It is not because you do not matter to them. That is not truth. It is a lie we are believing because of our feelings, because we have had too much thinking time. The next strategy and piece of advice from the bible then is that it is important to make sure we are reading truth every day. It is an important ability to be able to identify things that we believe about ourselves and others and determine whether they are lies or truth. And if there are any lies we are believing, to write down the truth instead and read it as often as we need to until it sticks in our heads. It has been an amazing way to combat thinking. It takes time, but it’s worth it. For me personally, oh my days I could not have gotten through this without God. I have needed to read the truth about who I am and who He is and how He dealt with stuff every morning to start my day. There are some great sources of truth in the bible. I have needed to remember that real love is not that people love us, but that we love them. That instead of thinking about how I am so lonely and no one is contacting me, I can realise that the people I love feel the same way, and that I can be the person that helps them remember that they are cared about. They are supported. Instead of thinking that I am worthless, I can remember that that someone went to great lengths to have me in their lives, that I am beautifully and wonderfully made and that I am not a mistake but that I am here for a purpose, especially now during this pandemic. This is truth for us all.
4) Keep some routine.
A more practical point, but a helpful one. From day one, I knew if I didn’t do this, all the days would merge into one. Specifically, I made sure my week days felt different to my weekends. There were specific things I tried to do each day during the week, particularly setting aside a couple of hours to work so that I achieved something each week and kept purpose in my life. However, I kept the weekends free, or had some combination of days off. Sometimes those days off needed to happen in the middle of the week because I woke up with no intentions of doing anything, and that’s okay. They’re not things to feel guilty about. I love a good ‘do nothing day.’ They have been so necessary. But so have the week days. So has routine.
One thing I would suggest, try and go for a walk every day. Most of the time, I never feel like going. But when I do, I never regret it. Fresh air is so good for us and it’s good to get out the house, have a bit of exercise.
These are just a few of the things that have helped me. I hope you find them helpful and they make your lockdown life a more pleasant thing to experience. I hope your life becomes about living again, and not just surviving, and lastly, I pray that we will VERY soon see the end of Covid-19.